Being "grilled" with questions when you need a sympathetic ear

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    EG
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    Ever have a situation where you really desperately need to talk to someone close to you about a problem, and instead of offering you a sympathetic ear they put you on the defensive with grilling questions? How do you respond? I’m asking as much for advice as to get a discussion started.

    #895605
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    Hermit
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    I’ve just about given up trying to talk to anyone, especially about problems. It usually just pis ses me off. The older I get, the more I hate even being around people. The hell with talking to them. Even friends are more and more getting on my nerves.

    Life is best when I’m home alone. I talk to God about my problems.

    The evil in women’s hearts leaves them no moral bounds as to inhibit them from descending to the lowest levels of darkness to acquire their self entitled desires.

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    Carnage
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    I’ve just about given up trying to talk to anyone, especially about problems. It usually just pis ses me off. The older I get, the more I hate even being around people. The hell with talking to them. Even friends are more and more getting on my nerves.
    Life is best when I’m home alone. I talk to God about my problems.

    This… Except i dont talk to god, i talk to carnage, everyone should have one.

    To those following me, be careful, I just farted. Men those beans are killers.

    #895620
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    Freedom Not Slavery
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    If they can’t just shut the f~~~ up and listen just stop talking and walk away, no one should be grilling you with questions like that.

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    Awakened
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    Ever have a situation where you really desperately need to talk to someone close to you about a problem, and instead of offering you a sympathetic ear they put you on the defensive with grilling questions?

    ANYONE that attempts to grill me about ANYTHING will make my F~~~ Off and Avoid list…..It’s funny how many supposedly ‘close” people in my life have made that list, and I’m guessin more will probably be added before I stop breathin…LOL LOL

    In a World of Justin Beibers Be a Johnny Cash

    #895630
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    Ever have a situation where you really desperately need to talk to someone close to you about a problem, and instead of offering you a sympathetic ear they put you on the defensive with grilling questions? How do you respond? I’m asking as much for advice as to get a discussion started.

    That situation honestly has never happened to me in 47 years. Simply because I realize that as a man there will NEVER be anyone to help you. Women never would as they’re hardwired to usurp the resources of the male and would never do for you at any fundamental level. And no man would either as they’re busy with their own problems. Unless your paying them to listen which mitigates the point in my opinion. If you accept the necessity of self sufficiency as a man you’ll find a much more enjoyable life. Just make sure to give yourself enough down time to be able to solve the challenges at hand and you wont need a sympathetic ear. You’ll also reap the inner satisfaction of solving lifes challenges on your own without any commentary from others. In my opinion that’s very rewarding.

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    SpiderHerder
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    That situation honestly has never happened to me in 47 years. Simply because I realize that as a man there will NEVER be anyone to help you. Women never would as they’re hardwired to usurp the resources of the male and would never do for you at any fundamental level. And no man would either as they’re busy with their own problems. Unless your paying them to listen which mitigates the point in my opinion. If you accept the necessity of self sufficiency as a man you’ll find a much more enjoyable life. Just make sure to give yourself enough down time to be able to solve the challenges at hand and you wont need a sympathetic ear. You’ll also reap the inner satisfaction of solving lifes challenges on your own without any commentary from others. In my opinion that’s very rewarding.

    Also this.

    People usually cause all the problems that you’re trying to solve by talking about it to other people. Schadenfreude: lots of people are happy to see you’re feeling like s hit. They won’t help.

    Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you. - Lao Tzu

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    Ranger One
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    I’ve just about given up trying to talk to anyone, especially about problems. It usually just pis ses me off. The older I get, the more I hate even being around people. The hell with talking to them. Even friends are more and more getting on my nerves.Life is best when I’m home alone. I talk to God about my problems.

    This… Except i dont talk to god, i talk to carnage, everyone should have one.

    You can talk to me, too.

    I didn’t say that I’d give a fuk, though.

    All my life I've had doubts about who I am, where I belonged. Now I'm like the arrow that springs from the bow. No hesitation, no doubts. The path is clear. And what are you? Alive. Everything else is negotiable. Women have rights; men have responsibilities; MGTOW have freedom. Marriage is for chumps. If someone stands in the way of true justice, you simply walk up behind them and stab them in the heart-R'as al Ghul.

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    Narwhal
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    A few points I’d say on this.

    — Women are typically evaluating you as a mate, so the fact that your admitting a weakness to them really only factors in terms of how they can earn an orbiter.

    — Men are built for fixing problems. They are generally ready to get to the heart of the issue in get it done, than go through the details of what your feeling. I think it takes practice and training for men to realize that the first step is to help them get the emotions out about that issue. I had this issue with my brother when I was going through divorce. He would not let me vent to him, but was quick to provide advice. His device was spot on, but I was not at all ready to hear that at the time. I ended up hanging up on him and not ever speaking to him about it again.

    — A man’s first loyalty is usually to his wife, GF, or his own ability to please a woman. So his advice always has to be filtered through that. If sympathizing with you puts that in jeopardy, than he won’t do it. I actually had a ‘friend’ who repeated something I had said to him in confidence back to his wife. I was actually meeting with a couple guys specifically to talk about my divorce, and they all knew that was the point of it. So he told his wife, who told my then wife, and made my life all that much worse.

    The only advice I would give is to preface any conversation you feel you need to have with “I need to vent, I’m not looking for advice right now”. If they can’t stick within those boundaries, then there is no point in talking to them about the issue.

    Ok. Then do it.

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    QuantumOfPeace
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    If they don’t listen then they won’t listen. There are definitely people that are great listeners however.
    Sympathetic, out to help you, etc. I have found some in tightly knit organizations. I have found the phenomenon you are talking about amongst almost all women.
    There is always the priest or chaplin, and the counselor. The best however is the dog. I love them and they never fail to offer me an ear.

    Peace.

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    Veritech Ace
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    It’s never been an issue. I deal with my problems myself, and have no need to talk to someone about them.

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