- 2019-12-03 at 7:33 AM#917536+6
I saw this today and thought I’d take a shot at giving advice. It’s been a while and C-Pig isn’t around to help. Let’s see how it goes……
I met both “Teresa” and “Colin” in college. I grew close to both of them in separate friend groups. By the time we were graduating, the two of them were strongly infatuated with each other and began dating not long after. The relationship worried me, as they did not bring out the best in each other. I am ashamed to say I was very vocal about this opinion to everyone but the couple, and they soon stopped talking to me around the time they were married.
Last year, I realized that I had messed up and wrote a long apology to the two of them. I apologized for doubting their relationship, explained that it came from a place of worry, and said that I should have come to them with concerns, not fallen temptation to gossiping instead. They forgave me, and we began to rebuild the friendship.
Last month Teresa confided to me that she was deeply unhappy in her marriage, falling for another man, and taking steps toward a divorce. They are currently living apart. Colin is with his family, several states away, with the purpose of finding better employment, and Teresa is working on cutting him out of her life without telling him first. She has begun splitting the bank accounts and blocking him on social media. She has only told me, claiming she feels comfortable because I would support the split anyway.
While I do agree that a divorce is best for both of them, I know that Colin will be devastated. He supported Teresa through mental breakdowns, lost his previous job because he wanted to care for her when she mentioned feeling suicidal, and moved his whole life to be with her. She will move on easily, as she has already done so emotionally, but this will come as a deep shock to him.
I feel dirty knowing all of this. I feel deeply uncomfortable with the fact that she hasn’t told Colin anything and have encouraged her to communicate her intentions. She says he will lash out and it’s better to have everything in order and then worry about the communication aspect. They are both my friends, and I feel fully stuck.
—Stuck in the Middle With You
I fail to see the problem. This sounds like every marriage I’ve ever seen. At some point every relationship hits the point where the guy doesn’t know he’s being replaced. You are a member of The Hive and your job is to give her advice on how to extract every resource possible from him and his family. FOCUS BITCH! There’s work to be done here and time is running out.
Your biggest problem at this point is that you still seem to care a little about Colin. You are showing a lack of loyalty to The Hive that is very disturbing. You’d better fix that s~~~ and quick. The Hive can also turn and eat its own if necessary. NEVER, and I mean NEVER, betray The Hive.
Order the good wine2019-12-03 at 9:10 AM#917538+4
I agree that she should NEVER betray the hive but maybe she should do something productive. Like starting the process of arranging for THE PHONE CALL. Make sure Colin is escorted off the property by the proper authorities as soon as he returns to the place HE USED TO CALL HOME.
She needs to get with the program if she wants to be a productive member of The Hive.2019-12-03 at 6:44 PM#917581+6
Now that I think about it I saw that scenario play out many times. I just didn’t see it through red pill lenses like I do now. I thought it would never happen to me. WRONG. I was the victim of receiving the cold shoulder by my friends, neighbors, etc. I was the victim of trash talking by her and The Hive. Last but not least I was the victim of THE PHONE CALL.
Here we are thirteen years later and I can easily say I’m in a better spot than she will ever be. Karma has sure caught up to that dumb (UN+. Going monk was the best thing I ever did. I’m seeing more and more men walking away. Makes me smile.2019-12-07 at 4:02 AM#917970+4
What men do:
He supported Teresa through mental breakdowns, lost his previous job because he wanted to care for her when she mentioned feeling suicidal, and moved his whole life to be with her.
What women do:
Teresa is working on cutting him out of her life without telling him first. She has begun splitting the bank accounts and blocking him on social media…. She will move on easily, as she has already done so emotionally."You don't know a woman till you have met her in divorce court."
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