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    I saw this today and thought I’d take a shot at giving advice. It’s been a while and C-Pig isn’t around to help. Let’s see how it goes……

    Dear Prudence,

    I met both “Teresa” and “Colin” in college. I grew close to both of them in separate friend groups. By the time we were graduating, the two of them were strongly infatuated with each other and began dating not long after. The relationship worried me, as they did not bring out the best in each other. I am ashamed to say I was very vocal about this opinion to everyone but the couple, and they soon stopped talking to me around the time they were married.

    Last year, I realized that I had messed up and wrote a long apology to the two of them. I apologized for doubting their relationship, explained that it came from a place of worry, and said that I should have come to them with concerns, not fallen temptation to gossiping instead. They forgave me, and we began to rebuild the friendship.

    Last month Teresa confided to me that she was deeply unhappy in her marriage, falling for another man, and taking steps toward a divorce. They are currently living apart. Colin is with his family, several states away, with the purpose of finding better employment, and Teresa is working on cutting him out of her life without telling him first. She has begun splitting the bank accounts and blocking him on social media. She has only told me, claiming she feels comfortable because I would support the split anyway.

    While I do agree that a divorce is best for both of them, I know that Colin will be devastated. He supported Teresa through mental breakdowns, lost his previous job because he wanted to care for her when she mentioned feeling suicidal, and moved his whole life to be with her. She will move on easily, as she has already done so emotionally, but this will come as a deep shock to him.

    I feel dirty knowing all of this. I feel deeply uncomfortable with the fact that she hasn’t told Colin anything and have encouraged her to communicate her intentions. She says he will lash out and it’s better to have everything in order and then worry about the communication aspect. They are both my friends, and I feel fully stuck.

    —Stuck in the Middle With You

    Dear Stuck:

    I fail to see the problem. This sounds like every marriage I’ve ever seen. At some point every relationship hits the point where the guy doesn’t know he’s being replaced. You are a member of The Hive and your job is to give her advice on how to extract every resource possible from him and his family. FOCUS BITCH! There’s work to be done here and time is running out.

    Your biggest problem at this point is that you still seem to care a little about Colin. You are showing a lack of loyalty to The Hive that is very disturbing. You’d better fix that s~~~ and quick. The Hive can also turn and eat its own if necessary. NEVER, and I mean NEVER, betray The Hive.

    We all get what we tolerate

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