Thank you for this. To be able to relate is a godsend. I’m not alone. I did “get-it”! My ears were open. I “was” listening to my Wife when manipulated into believing I wasn’t trying & it was all my fault. What I loved, cherished & built for the last 15 yrs is being vaporized. To all the Men that have experienced their wife’s selfishness, soul-raping betrayal and who have paid the consequences for “I love you but I’m not in love with you” and “I need to find myself”….. Thank you for sharing your words, your stories, thank you for everything. Sincerely.